Have you ever encountered a moment where you looked at your past and wonder with the quote:
Your feet are planted where it wants to grow.
When I think about the beauty of marriage and learning to be a Godly wife on a daily basis, I must say, my interactions as a Godly girlfriend doesn’t put me into a softening and welcoming mood. An awaken wound where I played more of devil’s advocate versus the peacemaker.
Let’s be honest here…. I only dated three guys in the time span from 17 to 22. Does it matter about age? Does it matter about how many guys? Absolutely not, but I’m trying to get to my point: recognizing how crucial it is to be Godly girl, to a Godly teenager, to a Godly woman doesn’t hit the surface or is discussed much.
Although my errors in judgement, greed, selfishness, loneliness, being blindsided all creep up to me from time to time.
Past is past, true, but your past makes you recognize and learn from your previous mistakes and change the cycle of disorder.
Is it smart to date someone just because they like you and you like the fact that they like you? Absolutely not.
Is it smart to date someone as a rebound and rush something that shouldn’t be there in the first place just because you’re lonely and insecure? Absolutely not.
Is it smart to invest your emotions more about the future “what if”, ignore the red flags of “what is now” and become whisked away by anything and everything the guy says in spite of your gut instincts? Absolutely not.
I am obviously not perfect. My past doesn’t express who I am now, but it certainly sheds light on teachable moments.
I am a wife now. I made a vow, a covenant with my husband to always be faithful and true until death shall part us. Although I have seen couples who don’t take those vows seriously and become selfish for their own personal gain than shed light that you are a team in a marriage and you work it out. Not using “irreconcilable differences” as an excuse.
There are many moments during your dating history where they speak about your butterfly, honeymoon, novelty stage are at its peak and sometimes they go away.
I have learned recently from my previous Pastor (he’s retired now) about him mentioning “are you on your honeymoon stage?”
In marriage there will be ups and downs, striving and setbacks, clear visions and miscommunications. Between all the motions make sure there’s always a honeymoon stage in your relationship, make it a promise between you both to know you will love each other deeply and passionately than you did before or how you fell in love the first placed.
Happiness in marriage is not always about who you are with, what you do for a living, but it’s definitely who you choose to be with and what you love to do. You choose everyday to make marriage work, you choose everyday to find joy in the marriage versus negativity. Yes there are days where you want time for yourself and there are days you need someone holding your hand. There are many motions within marriage, just make sure you both tilt (there’s never a 50/50 balance, therefore, I like to use the word tilt knowing some days we need help more than our husband/wife needs it on those days) each other to what is necessary at the moment.
I must apologize for this delayed post! I was wanting to post this a few days after my previous post, but real life priorities became an absolute importance. Anyway, my husband and I celebrated another year of marriage last month! 🙂